Who am I?
What am I supposed to do when I grow older?
What am I gonna do?
Should I become this or that?
Those are just a few questions that our younger selves asks.
Finding who you are is a journey that we all have to take. This is the most difficult thing to discover, especially when you are in the ages between 12-18 years old. The golden teenage years, where we often do random stuff just to know who we are as a person. But personally, I think that we never really find ourselves and that is not a bad thing. Why?
Well, let’s all just say that things change all the time. We change as we age. We change as we experience pain. We change as we meet new people. We change as we go through life. People change. Environments change. Settings change. Friends change. Everyone you used to know changed. For short, so many things in our lives change. And that change can influence you as a person.
People don’t stay the same is a good thing in my opinion. We all need to change once in a while. We should not go through all these years being exactly the same. The moment you were born is the beginning of the journey as a person. And everyday we grow up, everyday we see changes around us, and as we age we didn’t realize that we are changing slowly everyday.
And you don’t have to put a pressure on yourself for copying others. You don’t have to join the cheer squad to be popular. You don’t have to be famous to be cool. You don’t have to copy others just to fit in. You don’t have to be that person or this person. You should not be doing that because that person is doing it. Or you should not be doing this because this person is doing it and everyone thinks it’s cool. You should not be doing this because that person said so. Those people aren’t in-charge of your life. You are. And you have to follow your instincts if you should be doing this or that.
But as long as you are happy doing it, and as long as you feel like you’re in the right track then continue doing it. But if you feel like something is bothering you, or you don’t want this and you feel like you’re heading to the other direction, then you should probably change course. It doesn’t matter how old you are, it’s never too late to change course and chase after that thing whatever it is that makes you happy. If you are having problems with your family, your friends, your job, your partner or in school, if you feel like you’re not happy with the degree that you’ve chosen, then you have to change it. Pick the degree that you want to take, the job that you love, talk to that person who made you feel that way, do whatever it takes to make yourself happy again. Remember, they are not the one who is in-change of your happiness. It is you. Only you who can make yourself happy no matter what people say, no matter how many books you read or what you do, if something is really making you unhappy, then you have to change it and you’re the only one that can do that. Then it shifts your mindset, and you can feel it within yourself that you are starting to do the things that’s making you happy.
We really don’t have to know who we are really, as long as we are happy, and we are giving the best that we can be, I feel like that is the key. Don’t ever feel like you have to follow someone’s footsteps or be somebody that you are not. Don’t ever do something because someone else thinks you should do it, just do the things that YOU think you should. Do the things that you like to do.
This is your life. Not your friend. Not your lover. YOURS.
You keep on asking people who you should be when you grow up.
Should you go to college?
Should you apply to this job because you love it but you don’t know what to do?
Should you move to another country because you want to but you don’t want to leave everything behind?
Whatever questions you got, the only person that can give the answer is YOU. All you have to do is just do what you want to do, ask God to guide you and the most important thing is you do it FOR YOU.
Finding yourself takes a lot of time and courage. You just don’t sit there and wait for it to magically pop out of nowhere. Finding yourself can either mean that you are happy on what you are doing, that you are happy on what you have done and what you have achieved in your life so far, and you tell yourself that “This is me. This is what I love to do.” OR you are just not feeling it that you have to start it all over again and find your happiness.
Finding yourself is a journey. It can be exciting, it can be fun, it can be nerve wrecking, or it can be scary. But, that is life. And we all know how life can be. It can be fun, it can be scary and it can be unfair sometimes. But, as you go through it, as you graduate college, as you get the job that you love, as you move to another country, and as you make your own family you are still in the process of finding yourself. You may have changed, situations may have changed, but you’re still you, finding yourself and the most important thing is, you’re having fun while doing it.